Although the words "hurry up" did little if nothing to increase my child's speed, I said them anyway. Maybe even more than the words, "I love you." The truth hurts, but the truth heals... and brings me closer to the parent I want to be.
10 Things to Stop Saying to Your Kids (and What to Say Instead)
Current research shows that some of the most commonly used and seemingly positive phrases we use with kids are actually quite destructive. Despite our
My Dad’s Annoying. I’m Annoying. What About My Daughter?
I’ve inherited my dad’s habit of saying and doing inappropriate things. Now I’m making sure my kid won’t follow suit.
Trust Me, I’m Lying
We reflexively instruct our children to always tell the truth. It’s even encoded into Boy Scout Law. It’s what adults do, isn’t it? But do we? Isn’t telling the truth too much and too often a bad life strategy – perhaps even dangerous? Is telling children to
What You Should Really Say to Your Daughter About Campus Sexual Assault
It’s not what you might imagine.
Trans Rats!
A promise I made to myself when I was very young that I have tried to keep in mind often is that I should never forget what being a child is like.
How to parent more predictably
(As with anything else I write about parenting, this is mostly just my observations with my own two kids and may not generalize as well as I think it does.) A few weeks ago I wrote about why I think it's valuable for parents to be predictable. I was mostly describing an end state, though, and reasons why it's a good place to be, but what should you do if you're interested in being more consistent
Why Does Everyone Hate Children?
Why Does Everyone Hate Children?
Parenting - Fable | Stories for everyone
Delivering the world’s best social experience with exceptional stories in service of mental wellness.
Academia: Thoughtfulness With--and Without--Writing
Thursday’s Child Has Far To Go
Doing what you love when the money won’t follow
I have frequently been critical of the advice given by baby boomers to “do what you love and the money will follow”. After the hard experience of my generation and the ones following it…
How to gain more from reading by taking it all in more slowly | Psyche Guides
There’s more to words than meets the eye. Deepen your appreciation of literature through the art of slow, attentive reading
Open source confronts its midlife crisis | The Observation Deck
Midlife is tough: the idealism of youth has faded, as has inevitably some of its fitness and vigor. At the same time, the responsibilities of adulthood have grown: the kids that were such a fresh adventure when they were infants and toddlers are now grappling with their own transition into adulthood – and you try to remind yourself that the kids that you have sacrificed so much for probably don’t actually hate your guts, regardless of that post they just liked on the ‘gram. Making things more challenging, while you are navigating the turbulence of teenagers, your own parents are likely entering life’s twilight, needing help in new ways from their adult children. By midlife, in addition to the singular joys of life, you have also likely experienced its terrible sorrows: death, heartbreak, betrayal. Taken together, the fading of youth, the growth in responsibility and the endurance of misfortune can lead to cynicism or (worse) drastic and poorly thought-out choices. Add in a little fear of mortality and some existential dread, and you have the stuff of which midlife crises are made…
be diligent
For individuals It's challenging to work a process when it moves slower than feels appropriate. In the context of computer conversations, the tactic of s...
Crying Newborn Has No Idea How Much Worse It Gets
MEDFORD, OR—Saying the infant really ought to save her tears for the real shit that’s headed her way, sources familiar with crying newborn Sophia Whitfield confirmed Monday that she had no idea how much worse it was going to get. Observers told reporters the shrieking baby was clearly oblivious to the fact that any distress she experienced […]
A Rule is to Break
Simply celebrating childhood: the joy, the wonder of discovery, the spontaneity, and strong emotions Wild Child is free to do as she pleases. <i>A Rule Is To Break: A Child's Guide to Anarchy</i> follows Wild Child as she learns about just being herself and how that translates into kid autonomy. It presents the ideas of challenging societal expectations and tradition and expressing yourself freely in kid-terms that are both funny and thought provoking—it even functions as a guidebook for adults to understand what it is to be a critically thinking, creative individual. Wild Child is <i>the</i> role model for disobedience that is sometimes civil.<br><br> Mostly pictures (that are cute!) and a little text, and looks good, but don't expect much of a lesson in real anarchy! For ages 4 and up!
