What do fame, wealth and lots of sex bring? Exactly the opposite of what you think.
A psychologically rich life: Beyond happiness and meaning.
Opinion | In Praise of Mediocrity (Published 2018)
The pursuit of excellence has infiltrated and corrupted the world of leisure.
Against the Couple-Form | LIES Journal
Libidinal flows cut through the social world. Amorous and sexual relations do not exist in some domain safely taped off from the rest of society. Rather they are constituent elements of nearly every aspect of social life. Desire flows and circulates amongst places of employment, intellectual debates, political organizing, artistic circles, playgrounds, and cemeteries. The elderly patient grabs at the breast of a nurse hunched over him. A governmental official strips his newly hired intern down to her leopard print thong during an important briefing in his office. The incarcerated man holds his hand up to the glass of the visiting booth, attempting to touch his wife after twenty years of their bodily separation. These flows of libidinal desire operate within and amongst broader social mechanisms, such that they help animate the dynamics of economic and political life. Often a locus of politics, desire permeates the so-called ‘public’ terrain.
Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny - Blood Knife
The human body has become a strange contradiction at the heart of the modern blockbuster. Sexy, yes. But sexual? No.
Opinion | Is It Time for a New Sexual Revolution?
One that actually brings men and women together.
Women and Effective Altruism
Edit: This was cross posted to EA forum, and is a heavily downvoted post in their community. You can see the discussion here A lot has been talked about SBF/FTX/EA but this coverage reminds me that is time to talk about the toxicity of the culture within EA communities, especially as it relates to women. EA circles, much like the group house in Bahamas, are widely incestous where people mix their work life (in EA cause areas), their often polyamorous love life and social life in one amalgomous mix without strict separations. This is the default status quo. This means that if you’re a reasonably attractive woman entering an EA community, you get a ton of sexual requests to join polycules, often from poly and partnered men. Some of these men control funding for projects and enjoy high status in EA communities and that means there are real downsides to refusing their sexual advances and pressure to say yes, especially if your career is in an EA cause area or is funded by them. There are also upsides, as reported by CoinDesk on Caroline Ellison. From experience it appears that, a ‘no’ once said is not enough for many men in EA. Having to keep replenishing that ‘no’ becomes annoying very fast, and becomes harder to give informed consent when socializing in the presence of alcohol/psychedelics. It puts your safety at risk. From experience, EA as a community, has very little respect for monogamy and many men, often competing with each other, will persuade you to join polyamory using LessWrong style jedi mindtricks while they stand to benefit from the erosion of your boundaries. (Edit: I have personally experienced this more than three times in less than one year of attending EA events and that is far too many times. )
L’amour avant Tinder
Grâce à l’analyse d’un million de petites annonces matrimoniales en France, en Amérique du Nord et en Inde, des chercheurs en économie retracent la transformation de nos critères amoureux au
'love island' and the mirror of red pill ideology in modern dating
red pill masculinity, the objectification of women through entertainment ecosystems—and how it helps script modern heterosexual dating culture
Extraordinary Passion: Tantra and the Chemistry of Sex
Extraordinary Passion: Transcendence and Body Maps
Sex, science, and Tantra - how to have incredible orgasms and amazing sex, and a completely non-spiritual look at why Tantra has such amazing effects.
Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen
An engaging exploration of what it means to be asexual in a world that’s obsessed with sexual att...
Opinion | Can There Be Good Porn? (Published 2018)
I never wanted the responsibility of shaping young minds. Now it’s keeping me up at night.
The Case for Lowering Your Expectations
It may be the key to happiness and sustainable performance
Extraordinary Passion: Types of Orgasms
Careless People: A Cautionary Tale of Power, Greed, and…
An explosive memoir charting one woman’s career at the …
This, and even more - to get super-rich almost requires *suppressing* the cultivation of a self or interiority. “Our system produces, elevates, and rewards psychopaths.” x.com/uTobian/status/20412132683884…
Levi Stahl
The empty boredom of the super-rich who never had to cultivate a self or interiority is the root cause of so many of our problems.
