A Typology of Insecurities in Non-monogamy

Bloomberg Businessweek 2023 Jealousy List

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6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal

Many unhealthy relationship habits are baked into our culture and we end up accepting them as normal. Here are a few ways we do this.

Movement Narcissism: A Warning and A Guide | New Archives

Narcissistic abuse is most often discussed in interpersonal relationships, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. However, I would venture that narcissistic abuse is not just contained to romantic relationships, but that narcissists find their platonic targets in social and group environments. Within progressive social movements, this is unfortunately true. Our current activist narratives about charismatic leadership and heroism attract individuals who see social movements as another way of satisfying their need for attention and power.

The Cooperative Account of the Rise of Virtues

This chapter presents an account of how virtues evolve. The primary challenge any such account must address is why different societies regard different traits as virtues and why these views change over time. The account developed here builds on the theory of Morality as Cooperation, which identifies seven core types of cooperation that correspond to seven universally valued virtues—filial piety, loyalty, fair-mindedness, courage, deference, justice, and respect for property. The chapter argues that virtues are stable character traits that dispose individuals to perform cooperative actions in response to recurrent social interaction problems. Different societies at different times face different problems of cooperation, which leads to different virtues. The chapter concludes with humility as a test case for this account of the evolution of virtues.

The Weirdness of Dating/Mating: Deep Nonconsent Preference — LessWrong

Every time I see someone mention statistics on nonconsent kink online, someone else is surprised by how common it is. So let’s start with some statis…

What You Lose When You Gain a Spouse

What if marriage is not the social good that so many believe and want it to be?

When Sturdy Love Is What You Need (Published 2018)

There is the often facile social media narrative of overcoming adversity in marriage. And then there is the reality.

Testosterone causes both prosocial and antisocial status-enhancing behaviors in human males | PNAS

Although popular discussion of testosterone’s influence on males often centers on aggression and antisocial behavior, contemporary theorists have p...

Against the Couple-Form | LIES Journal

Libidinal flows cut through the social world. Amorous and sexual relations do not exist in some domain safely taped off from the rest of society. Rather they are constituent elements of nearly every aspect of social life. Desire flows and circulates amongst places of employment, intellectual debates, political organizing, artistic circles, playgrounds, and cemeteries. The elderly patient grabs at the breast of a nurse hunched over him. A governmental official strips his newly hired intern down to her leopard print thong during an important briefing in his office. The incarcerated man holds his hand up to the glass of the visiting booth, attempting to touch his wife after twenty years of their bodily separation. These flows of libidinal desire operate within and amongst broader social mechanisms, such that they help animate the dynamics of economic and political life. Often a locus of politics, desire permeates the so-called ‘public’ terrain.

Beyond Equality—Non-Monogamy and the Necropolitics of Marriage

‘Marriage equality’ has been a widely used slogan and mobilizing concept for LGBTQ+ rights’ movements across the globe striving for formal recognition for ‘same-sex’ or ‘same-gender’ marriages. In this article, we critically interrogate the terminology and political rationality that have given shape to ‘marriage equality’ campaigns. We demonstrate the structural erasure of non-monogamous relations and populations from the changes hoped for and envisioned in these mobilizations. The lack of any genuine and substantial concern with consensual non-monogamies (CNMs) from most of the literature in the field highlights the close entanglement of marriage with monogamy. As a result, ideas are scarce about how meaningful and adequate legal recognition and social policy provisions for a wide range of intimate, sexual, familial, and/or caring bonds or constellations on the CNM continuum could look like. We argue that the critique of the mononormativity inherent to marriage is fundamental to understanding the role of this in the 21st century. We identify the roots of the mononormativity of marriage in its governmental role as a necropolitical and biopolitical technology, evidenced by its ‘civilizing’ function in white settler colonial projects. Because of this, an expansion of the call for equality to include non-monogamous populations does not resolve but rather aggravates the problem. We conclude that any truly queer politics of CNM consequently needs to be anti-marriage.

Effective Altruism Has a Hostile Culture for Women, Critics Say

Seven women connected to effective altruism tell TIME they experienced harassment and worse within the community

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Moral "virtues are stable character traits that dispose individuals to perform cooperative actions in response to recurrent social…problems. Different societies at different times face different problems of cooperation, which leads to different virtues" https://t.co/rkOidRMI8h— Oliver Scott Curry (@Oliver_S_Curry) November 4, 2026